Josh Anastasia

A lot of things have been going on as of late. You might notice that I haven’t been online, both on forums I’m usually active on, projects, and even IM. That’s because I have no Internet at the moment. I don’t even have television. Enough of that because I’m too irritated, frustrated, and annoyed to discuss it, so I’ll save that until I find a solution to my Internet woes.

Instead, I’m going to talk about other things that have been happening to me since I last wrote on Ness’ birthday. I stayed sober, I was the designated driver, and we had a great time. Ness got a gumball machine as one of her presents, so we’re both ecstatic about that. Who doesn’t love gumball machines?

Remember that rumor that Ness and I heard about a month ago that her brother and his ghetto, white trash, alcoholic girlfriend were going to have a baby? Well, we figured it was just that, a rumor, even though the rumor originated when her brother told her other brother. Anyway…well a month went by and nothing was said to anyone about it, so we figured it was just a rumor and forgot about it. Last Thursday, her brother text messaged Ness and told her that his girlfriend was pregnant. Seriously, you tell her over a text message? That’s not very mature, considering you live in the same house with us!

So, he’s having a baby with his 20 year old girlfriend. Whatever, you want to do that then go ahead. I’m not going to stop you. I’m too respectful of Ness to involve myself in her family’s affairs, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion. I’m sure you can guess what that is, but I’ll say it anyway. Ness and I have talked about it extensively since we found out about the situation, but I need to write it out and get it out of my system. Hopefully, I can put it behind me, for now at least.

First off, that’s just disgusting. He’s 33 or 34 and she’s 20. She doesn’t have a job. She steals my cereal. She’s disrespectful. She’s immature. She can’t close the damn door and let’s in cold air, or the warm heat out. She’s spoiled. She’s 20. I don’t expect much from most 20 year olds. No offense, but most 20 year olds don’t have much life experience. I’m not going to say that I’m an expert on life experience, but I’ve been through a hell of a lot. Is she ready to have a baby? Absolutely not. Both Ness’ brother and his girlfriend live at home and milk their families for all they are worth. The good news is that she hasn’t taken a drink, at least I haven’t seen her, since she found out.

Not only that, her brother is too old for that kind of shit. He has two kids, one of which he doesn’t see because he’s too chicken shit to do anything about. The other one, he just started getting custody privileges with. How do you think your ex-girlfriend, who’s your children’s mother, is going to take the news of you having a baby with a 20 year old? Especially since you’ve only been dating her for 3 or 4 months. What’s the judge going to think? Not only that, but you live at home, with your dad! Everytime he gets paid, he asks either his dad or Ness for money. He doesn’t give it back, doesn’t offer to give it back, and when one of them asks for it back, or even some of it, he bitches and complains. He shows no sign whatsoever of him becoming responsible, growing the hell up, getting his own place, or making any sort of responsible decision about anything.

I’m not saying that an abortion is necessary. I don’t believe in it in most cases. But anyway, it’s not my decision to make in the first place. I just want to make that clear, because what I’m going to say, or what I’ve already said, may sound harsh.

So, what is he going to do? Really, that’s all I want to know. I live in that house. Does he plan on living there with his girlfriend and his new baby? Sorry, but if that happens, I’m leaving. I’m sure Ness would go with me. But then I’d feel horrible. Her dad can’t afford everything on his own. He’s been patient with Ness’ brother so far, although he didn’t take the news very well. He’s finally calming down a bit about it. But seriously…are you going to live with us? That’s ridiculous. I’m not going to support you, your girlfriend, and your baby. Not at all. You’re old enough to know better, to understand that using a condom isn’t 100% guaranteed, and to know that you aren’t ready to have another kid. You can barely handle the two you have now. If you were to gain even half custody of the two kids you currently have, you wouldn’t be able to support them. So having a third is a logical solution? I think not.

It’s funny because the day after Ness’ birthday, we went to the thrift store. I picked up an amazingly awesome tuxedo shirt (yea, I found one!) and was browsing the book section. Ness was browsing with me, and I’m not going to get ahead of ourselves here because it’s a long way off, but Ness and I have been talking about having kids. We really want to have kids, but we both realize that neither of us could financially support having a child right now. But it’s always nice to think about those things. So we’re browsing the book section and Ness comes across What To Expect When You’re Expecting. She buys it because it sounds interesting to her, and when the time comes around for us to have kids, we’ll have a book to start out with.

The next day, we find out and give it to her brother’s girlfriend. To be honest, I don’t think her mother is very happy with the whole thing either, considering her younger 14 or 15 year old sister just had a baby. But I guess her mother should be happy since she’s 20. I mean seriously! You’re 20! What are you doing having a baby?!? Shouldn’t you have been on the pill? Condoms aren’t 100%. Nothing is 100%. But you’d have a pretty damn good chance of not getting knocked up if you were on the pill andusing a condom. Hey, guess what!? There are risks to having sex…like getting pregnant! And you’re 20! If you were my sister, I’d slap you, or at least yell at you. Seriously. I don’t even give a shit about Ness’ brother anymore. Sooner or later, you’re going to grow up and realize that you were 20! You missed out on a whole bunch of shit. You weren’t ready. And you’re also going to realize how much of an asshole Ness’ brother is. You’re going to grow up, start thinking for yourself, and realize that you don’t have to be treated the way you do. There’s more to life than sex, laying in bed all day, eating, watching tv, and going to the bathroom.

I feel sorry for you. I really do. I mean, you might be overjoyed now, or at least happy, but that’s going to change. I mean, you’re not going to be unhappy with you’re kid, at least I hope to hell you aren’t, but you’re 20. You have so much to do, so much to experience, so much to live for, besides having a kid at 20. And no, partying is not one of those things. I just wished you would have realized all this before you started dating an asshole and before you got pregnant, because it’s going to be hard, and I’m really not sure you’re ready for that kind of responsibility.