It’s been awhile since I’ve written about being Trans. Ok, a really long while. I plan on doing some more videocasts but I’m lacking a camera at the moment, so that’ll have to wait, but I’m not abandoning that.

I’ve been in Cleveland since then end of May. It’s been a great few months here. I’ve been open to everyone I meet that I’m trans and make it no secret. There have only been a couple of occasions where I’ve been uncomfortable but for the most part, and I really do mean most, my experiences with telling people I’m trans have been amazing. I’ve talked about my lack of trust for other people numerous times, so I’m not going to get into that again. However, that’s slowly changing because of my interactions with people and friends.

I went out last night with Ness’ friend from work. I had met her, her boyfriend, and her friend Lisa before at a costume party where they asked me questions about being trans. Last night, we got to talking about it and I learned that because I was open about my situation, they’ve not only discussed it in depth, but they’ve also told other people about my situation. I’m really happy to hear that people are having conversations about this, even if it’s just a “How would you feel about your kid being trans?”

Everyone that I meet always asks me questions. For some reason though, they always preface their questions with something along the lines of “you don’t have to answer.” I always say that they can ask me anything because I’m very open about my life in this regard. Seriously, go ahead and ask me a question. I’ll be more than happy to answer. It doesn’t matter if it’s about sex, surgery, hormones, my parents and family, or how other people react.

The surgeries I’ll cover in my next videocast, but as for everything else, here are the questions I get asked the most.

1. What’s sex like? Well, without giving away too much information, because I’m not open about the details of my sex life, sex is great. I have it, I’m not ashamed of it or how we do it, and neither is Ness.
2. When do you plan on having the surgeries? When I can afford them. They aren’t covered by health insurance so I’ll have to fork over money of my own, or take out a loan and fork over money to the bank.
3. How does your family react? At first, they weren’t too happy. In fact, they threatened to disown me. However, my dad has told me in not-so-many words that he’s accepted it, even if he doesn’t understand or agree. I’ve told two of my three sisters, the two youngest, and both were, and continue to be, very supportive. The reason I haven’t told my other sister is because I’m not close with her, she wouldn’t care, and she’d probably make fun of me and call me a freak. No, I shit you not because that is the kind of person she is.
4. How do other people react? It depends on the person, their background, and how open-minded they are, but for the most part, everyone I’ve met have been supportive and completely cool with the whole thing. There have been a few situations, but nothing I couldn’t handle with Ness’ help. Most of my friends have been cool with it while I’ve lost some friends. Turns out, I don’t miss those friends one bit.
5. When did you know? I have memories of knowing from way back when I was 2 – 4 years old. However, I didn’t completely admit it to myself until I was 20. A lot of that has to do with the fact that I tried to make my parents happy, but that obviously didn’t work. They can take me as I am or move on.
6. How can I have kids? Well, physically, I can’t. Well, right now I could, but I don’t want kids popping out of me. That’s weird. It’s weird enough that I have all those “parts” when I don’t even want them. Basically, adoption, artificial insemination, and that sort of thing will have to do, because I can’t impregnate anyone, and I sure as hell don’t want to get pregnant. Once I can afford to, I plan on getting a hysterectomy.

There are tons more, but I’m having a brain fart at the moment and can’t think of anything else. I’ll make another post once I can gather my thoughts and put down some words.