I didn’t plan on telling anyone in my family until I actually started to take hormones. It’s not that I didn’t want to tell them, it’s just that I remember how my parents first reacted when I told them. I didn’t want to go through that all over again on a bigger scale.
I was talking to my sisters today, Andrea and Nicole. They are the youngest of us. Nicole was telling me that I’ve changed and that she didn’t know me anymore. Instead of just going along with it like I normally would have, I told her that I was trans. I’m just at the point where I’m not going to hide it anymore. I shouldn’t be afraid of who I am, and I don’t have to be afraid. I’m tired of hiding and walking on egg shells.
So, I told them, thinking they’d call me a freak or think I’m weird or not want to talk to me anymore. But that’s not how it went at all. They were both very nonchalant about it, almost as if they already figured it out on their own. They didn’t really ask many questions, but I guess those will come eventually.
I told them that I was changing my name to Josh and they were both asking me when and then that was it, just like every other conversation that I’ve had with them.
They didn’t judge me, at least not to me, and they both said that they accepted it. So, I guess that was easy…
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Sometimes our families surprise us at how understanding and unconditionally loving they can be… we think we’re 100% positive that someone will react to something badly and then, poof!, they react with kindness and the desire to understand. Amazing.
Anyway, congratulations to you for telling your sisters and I hope things continue to go well.
I have to think they already put two and two together. I know my brother an I don’t talk about some things because we don’t need it. We communicate wordlessly like a 6th sense.
I’m glad it went well though. Something like that is always scary. Maybe your parents will take a page from their book, or read the whole book!
It’s a good one.
yay! for telling your sisters, and their awesome reaction to it. and now you can play up the big brother bit to the hilt.
i heart you.
I’m so glad.
Thanks everyone