Comments on: Can I see your ID? I want to know what sex you really are

By: Free beer + Being sick + the most amazing fries evah!

Free beer + Being sick + the most amazing fries evah! — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:43:04 +0000

[...] Once we entered, we quickly grabbed some free beer and looked for our friends. They were in the back of the bar. I thought “Sweet, I can catch some Sports Center” but everyone began moving around. I met one of Ness’ friends from high school who I hadn’t ever met before. She seemed really cool with the fact that I’m transgender. I’m not surprised that most of her friends are cool with it, there was only that one who had a problem with it. [...]

By: Josh

Josh — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 17:04:35 +0000

You know what I really find shitty though? Is that a couple of days after this whole thing, the friend that’s been ignoring me starts to talk to me, make jokes with me, offers to buy me drinks, and then asks Ness for a favor, and then we’re back to being ignored. Like, what the fuck? Seriously.

By: Esther

Esther — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 21:08:01 +0000

I know what you mean about wondering if you’re under-reacting, Josh. I look at it as, you are over the issue, and you win by not letting that ignorant chick get under your skin. That is not under-reacting, it is the fact that you’re not letting her get the best of you–which is precisely what she wanted to do.

I can respect that Ness didn’t tell them, beforehand. I agree with you in that she might have been thinking that it’s none of their business–but also, if it’s not a big deal to her, then why should it be a big deal to her friends? I tend to like this approach because you can really see the bigots come out of the woodwork. Like when they’re caught off-guard.

By: Josh

Josh — Sat, 02 Jun 2007 20:40:14 +0000

@Ryan: I really don’t care that Ness decided not to tell them because really, it is our personal business and they don’t really need to know it, but I know how some people react when there isn’t an explanation as to why I have boobs when I’m introduced as Josh. The only real problem with the situation was that they thought they were being sneaky…I guess to try to not hurt my feelings, but it just would have been better if they hadn’t played those games.

@Jessy: My thoughts exactly.

@Mandy: You are in trouble. I have no idea what you did, but you are.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 31 May 2007 04:24:14 +0000

Its kind of hot when you call me Amanda… I feel like I’m in trouble or something.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Wed, 30 May 2007 20:01:31 +0000

Pussies

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 28 May 2007 16:52:11 +0000

This is a tough one. One on hand, Ness could have said something to her friends to make things more open. On the other hand, I don’t know that I’d want to lose my say in who knows about my personal life. You know? It’s sad that they tried to play games instead of being up front. I’ve always found it’s easier to take this stuff head on, like you.

By: Josh

Josh — Sun, 27 May 2007 21:39:17 +0000

@Amanda: She didn’t say anything because she didn’t feel it needed explaining and because she doesn’t think it’s any of their business.

@Peroty: I think a lot of people’s fear, or ignorance, just comes from the fact lack of exposure. The more people know, the more they’ll be willing to accept. Gender is something that is so embedded in our society and culture that it’s hard to break down those walls and start over.

By: peroty

peroty — Sun, 27 May 2007 02:40:29 +0000

I think traditional lines of gender and gender roles are breaking down so much that it freaks people out. I mean hell, I know guys who act very girly and girls who could win belching contests (and have). LOL

I take people for the people they are and don’t get hung up on stupid shit. I tell people I judge people in the dark. Meaning I’ll judge you by what I can see when the lights go out. If you’re chill and intelligent then we’re col. If you’re an ignorant fucker, then we’re not so cool.

Looks don’t mean shit. Hell, you can surgery away looks (yes, surgery is my verb) but you can’t operate on your personality.

Sorry I’m writing a novella in your comments box. It’s something that’s been on my mind a lot lately.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 27 May 2007 02:21:14 +0000

A totally awesome person. I wouldn’t let it get to you… Well, I mean, did she not tell anyone because she’s “embarrassed” or didn’t feel like answering questions… Or because it doesn’t matter to her and she didn’t feel like it needed explaining, because you are you, and you are awesome? and she accepts you for who you are? I don’t know if that made sense, I’ve been drinking. Believe it or not.