Comments on: Transgender Children

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 04 May 2007 03:51:22 +0000

Damn. That’s a good post. Thanks for sharing. The world needs more of this. All of this. And you have some mad design skills. Just thought you should know.

By: Josh

Josh — Wed, 02 May 2007 00:02:33 +0000

Esther, thanks for reading. I still have a lot more to learn too

By: Esther

Esther — Tue, 01 May 2007 04:28:15 +0000

Josh, it was really awesome to get to read your story. Part of it, anyway. I am positive there’s much more to learn…

By: Josh

Josh — Tue, 01 May 2007 00:12:25 +0000

Cheryl, thanks for stopping by! I would love it if my family accepted it, but I’m ok if they don’t. It’ll hurt, and it won’t be easy, but it’s something that I’ve come to terms with.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 23:58:10 +0000

It would be extremely good if you received a nurturing, positive response from your family——but what is vital is that you feel good and strong about yourself. Permanently.

By: Josh

Josh — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 19:28:37 +0000

Thank you, Ryan. I’m waiting for when I start to transition. I’m going to sit down with my parents again and have a talk and see where this goes. I’ve said it a million times before this, but if they can’t or won’t accept it, then I’m just going to have to let that be, and hope that they will eventually.

You are awesome too.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 15:28:18 +0000

I know what you mean, in a couple ways. Coming out as gay, although probably not as traumatic to the family as being trans, was the hardest part of my life. Having to choose between my own happiness and hurting my family was nearly impossible. But, it’s a cliche I know, times does heal wounds. Today, we’re closer than ever.

Also, I have a unique experience with gender identity disorder. About 3 years ago, my Dad came out as trans. He is now physically and legally a woman. It’s kind of the reverse of what you’re going through. Instead of being the child who’s parents are coping, I was the child who was coping with my parent’s GID. I was always supportive but, as the transition progressed, it did get difficult. I watched my Dad fade away, so there was some grieving involved.

3 years later, I couldn’t be happier. I love my new Mom – she’s my closest friend after Brian. My Dad had always struggled with being happy and being open. Now, after transition, those aren’t issues anymore. She’s full of love, laughter and happiness. After spending her life pretending to be someone else, she can be free to be who she is.

This is all long winded. Sorry. But I wanted you to know there are people out there who know what you’re going through. And there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Oh, and PS: You’re awesome.